Wednesday, March 3, 2021

Four Secrets to Authentic Love

IMG_4545As the saying goes, “Love is all around us.”   Make a commitment today to see and experience love at least once per hour.  Try it for a day.  Notice the love with which a coworker holds the door for you with a smile.  Notice the love between the couple in the car next you that kisses at the stoplight.  Notice people connecting with each other.  Notice caring in action all around.  Put your focus on love and change your life.  I dare you.

1) Look for the truth and authenticity in love.  Judgements aren’t truths.  Self consciousness is not truth.  Wanting to act and appear a certain way because of social decorum is not necessarily truth.   These are all born of fear and insecurity.  Fear is the opposite of love and you can flip your fears on their head and turn them into love.  Insecurity is being scared of your authentic self.  It is the belief that your true, authentic self is not as magnificent as it actually is.  Flip that insecurity on its head and do something totally gutsy, totally loving and feel the relief in that.  Share your true feelings.  Express your love for family, friends, pets, life.

2) Let life revive you with spiritual and emotional CPR this month.  Sometimes people come into your life for just that reason.  We meet those soul-connected people at the perfect times.  Whether it’s the friend who you get together with and your faith in the opposite gender is renewed because he is decent and kind or she honest and caring.  Or it is the boss who believes in you and gives you a chance to leap into the big leagues because of your creativity.  Or even the loving dog who snuggles you and licks your face because she is so happy to see you every single time you come home.

3) We’re emotional beings.  When we embrace this we can open to deeper experiences of love and connection and literally enhance our quality of life.  Our connections and the love they are made of may even be part of why we are here.  These connections might help us solve our existential crises and learn to be present to the amazing blessing of being here on Earth among billions of our other souls as an interconnected web of love.  Because in the end we are all one.  And what if Valentine’s Day could be about that?  About love and its endless expression?

4) What better way to celebrate authentic love than to give it?  Make a list today of five ways you can share your love with others today.  The more you give the more love flows back to you.  The more you share, the more you reap.  The more you choose to live love the better, more pleasurable life you will lead.  Try it today.  And ruminate (wink) on these words to start your reboot:

IMG_5141Love came, 

and became like blood in my body.

It rushed through my veins and 

encircled my heart.

Everywhere I looked, 

I saw one thing.

Love’s name written

on my limbs, 

on my left palm, 

on my forehead, 

on the back of my neck, 

on my right big toe…

Oh, my friend,

all that you see of me

is just a shell,

and the rest belongs to love.

Rumi poem from Shahram Shiva’s book
Hush Don’t Say Anything to God: Passionate Poems of Rumi
(Jain Publishing)

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