Monday, March 1, 2021

Being Honest with YOURself

woman sitting on a beachIt’s easy to trick ourselves into believing something that isn’t true.  

Did I really follow my meal plan?  Yes, sure I did.  I didn’t finish the fruit because it was spoiled and there is some lasagna on my plate but it was overcooked so I couldn’t finish it either.  But I did try both so that counts, right?


The truth is, and you really already know what I’m going to say, you did NOT follow your meal plan 100 percent. Deep down inside, in that little place within you,  you KNOW you did not do what you were supposed to do.

Challenge yourself.  What will happen if you don’t follow your meal plan?  Lots can and will happen. For starters you probably won’t make your weight when you see your dietitian.  Maybe you will try to “cheat” before weighing in?  But, that won’t work because eventually, down the road, you will get caught somehow.

Your husband might ask you how your day with meals went when he comes home from work.  If you say, “Everything went well and I was able to follow my “meal plan” then you are really lying to him.  Deep down inside you feel guilty.  Lying doesn’t make anything better, it makes everything much worse.

If you don’t follow your meal plan you also risk needing a higher-level-of-care (HLC).  This means admitting yourself into a day or partial program.  Or, you may need inpatient care.

Of course the ultimate price to remember is that your are risking your life for an eating disorder that truly doesn’t care about your well-being at all.  Is your life worth squirming by, not being honest, manipulating others, all to try to avoid eating the nurishment that you really need and deserve.

Go stand in front of the mirror.  Tell yourself positive things about yourself . You are special and you are loved.

So go ahead and finish what is on your plate.

Tell yourself you are one step closer towards recovery.



Sharon R Peterson, LCSW-C

Sharon is Founding Director of Eating Disorder Network of Maryland (EDN Maryland) and she has been an outpatient therapist providing individual, family, and group therapy since 1995.  She is also a faculty member for The Institute for Advanced Psychotherapy Training & Education, Inc (IAPTE) and teaches CEU classes for professionals about eating disorders and other mental health issues. ,



2 Responses to “Being Honest with YOURself”
  1. Gen says:

    Thank you so much for this post. It really made sense to me. Even though I’ve heard this philosophy before, the concept just clicked when reading your article. If there is no good reason not to give 100% to oneself and recovery, why not give it?
    Thank you :)))

    • Sharon Peterson says:

      So happy the post helped you see things in a different light Gem. Keep striving towards recovery and have faith in yourself. You can do it.

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