Feeling versus Being

Here’s a mistaken belief I hear all the time from clients and Food and Feelings message board members: Because I feel a certain way, it must be true. I feel fat, I feel unlovable, I feel unsuccessful, I feel inadequate, I feel defective. Hello, feeling isn’t being. I’m all for connecting with emotions and skillfully […]

Misinterpretations That Drive Unwanted Eating

Too many disregulated eaters have low regard for themselves and, therefore, don’t take care of themselves as if they’re deserving of high-quality self care. For those of you who think you’re defective and aren’t worth eating healthfully, here’s another take on the subject and how you might have mistakenly come to think about things incorrectly. […]

Mental Holocaust

I am currently reading Healthy Selfitude by NORMAL President Robyn Hussa and this month I am more aware of the shift toward mindfulness but also realize that as an African American that grew up in the Protestant church how foreign this concept may come across. I would like to speak to you as you consider […]

Hiding within yourself

Many people with eating disorders feel ashamed and embarrassed.  People are calling and texting you to go out, do things, and socialize.  Have you called them back?  Yes.  Have you told them you’d meet up with them?  Yes. But… You cancel at the last minute.  Why? “I just can’t go” you say to yourself.  ”No […]

Weighing In: The Yay! Scale

Weighing ourselves.  It’s an activity fraught with anxiety for many (most?) women.  That’s understandable as we’ve been raised to measure our worth by what we weigh.  So when we get on the scale,  if it doesn’t tell us what we want, whatever mood we were in is destined to head downhill. Knowing our weight can […]

Our walls of “perfect” bodies need to come down…

Graciously re-posted from Gurze Publications:  A while back, Tom and I took our spring break to travel to the East coast and present Andrea’s Voice where we were invited. We spoke to packed rooms, evidence of the desire for more information on eating disorders. After speaking at a university in New York, I received an […]

The Self-Love Rule

Blast from the past, originally posted July, 2009: You’ve heard of the golden rule right? It’s an idea I personally try to live by every day. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. So simple yet so poignant. In most situations is makes perfect sense. It breeds empathy and Lord knows […]

Hey, What’s Up With the Lying?

Ok, so you have an eating disorder.  Everyday you are consumed with food thoughts, numbers, calories, and negative thinking.  On top of this you have developed a habit of lying to others about small, medium, and big things.  Even some things that are important, like your health.  Do you like to lie?  No.  Most people […]

HUNGRY is not an attractive look on a woman…. HAPPY is!

Great guest post from Chris … Someone posted a picture today that really made me stop and think about perceptions and the definition of beauty. Think about it, who do women dress for? Other women. How many women live on a diet? I don’t know about you, but practically every woman I know is striving […]

Just Sit Back and Allow the Universe to Hold You Awhile

Borrowed from Robyn Hussa’s Recovery Yoga blog. I recently met Jodi Rubin at an outing for eating disorders clinicians in New York City.  Aside from being a clinician, Jodi creates the curricululm for eating disorders programming at NYU’s Silver School of Social work and is a frequent lecturer.  Below is a guest blog post – something […]

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