Monday, October 23, 2017

Interview with author, Kelly Rossi: Let’s change the world

Please tell us about yourself and what you do?

My name is Kelly Rossi and I am the author of Dating the Wrong Men. I also work as the Online Marketing Director for the Maloof family.

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Can you tell us a bit about any upcoming projects or events that you are working on?

My book was just released so I’m mainly doing the press runs for that right now.  I’ve had many, many inquiries for another book, but I haven’t figured out what I will do it on.

 

Do you find the pressures of working in your industry significant with regard to feeling the need to have a “perfect” body?  If so, how do you navigate through that terrain?  How do you “not” judge yourself when others (critics, audience members, producers, etc.) “judge” you based on outward measures?

As an author, I don’t feel I need a perfect body. But to market the book, event appearances, etc I feel pressure to look good and have that “perfect body”, especially in LA. 

 

I love running, but I don’t have 3 hours a day to work out.  I also love real food so I balance my food intake in with the calories I know I’m burning by running.  In the end of the day, I embrace the fact that how I look is as good as I’m going to get and I am healthy and enjoying fitness within my busy schedule.

 

To follow up with that question, how do you deal with bullying or people talking negative about you? Can you give any examples of bullying in your personal life and how you handled it?

The best approach to someone bullying is to ignore them.  It took me well into my 20s to realize that a lot of people bully when they are jealous.  Bullies also are looking for a response from you so ignoring is their ultimate defeat.  I have had many occasions, especially on social media where someone would virtually bully or harass me.  Most of the time, I ignore them and if things are very bad I will block them.  On rare occasions, I will come back with a joke or statement that sticks up for myself and puts the harasser in their place with no response.  Offline, I have been one or more situations at work where co-workers have insulted, threatened and ganged up on me.  Considering I had to work with these people I remove all emotional responses from our interactions, ignore insults, do what it takes to get the job done and consult the boss if there are major issues.

 

What made you want to get involved with Mental Fitness, Inc. and what it is about the mission of Mental Fitness that speaks to you?

It took me into my late 20s to learn some of the lessons about why people treat you a certain way in regards to the way you look and I wish I knew sooner. I also have dealt with bullying my entire life and had to learn the hard way to value myself enough to know that I was worth sticking up for.

 

Who were the role models in your life?

As a child, I looked up to my parents.  My parents were very smart with the two of them covering every category of intelligence from computers to history.  I believe this drove me to be a work horse and to always strive to make myself better in every area of life. 

 

What do you define as beautiful?

Beauty is the positive impression that you leave on others and the world.  It doesn’t stop at your outward appearance.  Trust me, no matter how fancy a person is on the outside, if they treat people badly they will quickly become the ugliest person on the planet.  On the contrary, a person who may not fit the standards pressed by society’s definition of “attractive” on the outside can be seen by everyone as beautiful because of their contributions to the world.  Beauty reflects the joy you bring to all of your interactions.   

 

How do you define inner beauty?

Inner beauty is the positive impressions brought about by your thoughts, actions, creativity, interactions with others and contributions.

 

What is happiness?

Happiness is different for everyone.  There was this movie in the 90’s called City Slickers where the main character, Billy Crystal, was told that happiness was ‘one thing,’ but when he asked what the one thing was he was told to figure it out.  He later found out that his happiness was his family.  My happiness is my husband, running, dancing and scouting out new fun things to do.  In the end, happiness is different for everyone and each person needs to figure it out.  It’s not what your parents, boyfriend, friends or boss tell you what it is, it’s one of the biggest missions of your life to figure out as the thing you can always fall back on to bring you joy when things get rough.

 

Would you be willing to take the Real Deal pledge?  Thoughts about that? (http://wearetherealdeal.com/about/the-real-deal-pledge/)

Absolutely!! That is great!

 

How do you manage your stress levels in daily life?  Do you use music / art / dance, etc. as a coping tool?  Are there other things that you do to live mindfully?

Like I said earlier, I am a runner.  I realized in my late 20s that I love to turn on the headphones and run!   Prior to that, I bottled up all my feeling and it was very destructive.  My body physically would shut down on me, so I had to find something.  I also like to talk through my problems.  I turn to my girlfriends and husband for any problem with no hesitation.  I also have no shame in talking to counselors.  Sometimes, they will give great additional advice coming from seeing similar situations from other people.  No matter what, surrounding yourself with non-judgmental people where you listen to each other’s problems has always been my best pillow to land on in difficult situations.

 

How do you find a work-life balance — as a woman, relationships, a professional — what are keys to balance?

What works for me is having a schedule, following it, and sticking up for my needs.  For example, Tuesday mornings I know that I will have laundry going while I work from home, I have set conference calls weekly to handle the important aspects of work and if someone asks me to sway from the schedule I fit them into my open slots.  And, as much as I love spending time with my husband, I have to make it clear when I am working and when ‘family’ time is.

 

Other thoughts / reflections?

The standards in our society have changed so much since I was young and in the way of self-confidence and overall progression I don’t think it’s been for the better necessarily.  The only way we can make a change is to help people get on the right track and it is easier to mold someone just starting their journey than to reroute them from the path they’ve been on for years.  Let’s change the world!

 

2014-02-22-08_smallKelly Rossi is well known for her cutting-edge skills in digital marketing, working with some of the most notable names in the world. With the combination of her sense of humor and technological skills, you can find her at speaking engagements for business and women’s organizations as well hosting various videos and live events. In fall, 2014, Kelly published all of her dating experiences and fashioned them into the ultimate guide to misadventures in dating, in her highly reviewed book entitled “Dating the Wrong Men.”

 

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