Low-Fat Love 101: A Single Gal’s Guide to New Year’s Eve
New Year’s Eve can be a difficult time for many people. In this spirit, for New Year’s Eve 2012 I wrote an op-ed called “The Single Gal’s Guide to New Year’s Eve” which was published in the Montreal Gazette and then picked up by numerous online blogs and media sources. I’m sharing that article here for single women in particular but really all people on their own who hope to make New Year’s special. Even if you’re on your own, that’s no reason to settle for low-fat love.
“The Single Gal’s Guide to New Year’s Eve”
Sometimes people use New Year’s Eve as a barometer to measure how well their life is going: Big plans equals a big life. Over-bloated expectations can make this a tough holiday, especially when you’re single. It is impossible to escape the questions that highlight great expectations others have for your “big night.” And on top of it all, if you’re single there’s the dreaded tradition of someone to kiss at midnight.
There are two typical ways single gals may deal with the New Year’s Eve pressure-cooker: avoiding it or faking it. But there’s no reason to crawl under the covers or to slap on a make-believe happy face and stay out until all hours. Here are my top tips for single women looking to genuinely enjoy New Year’s Eve, either with your single friends or on your own.
If you have some other single gal-pals this is a great opportunity to spend some time with them. Use New Year’s as an excuse to capitalize on the importance of strong female friendships and to celebrate the women in your life.
- Have a girlfriend get-together at your place. If you’re with your friends I recommend avoiding the bar or club scene. It’s a high-pressure night and you’re likely to feel like it’s all about forced-fun, flirting with anyone around, and potentially hooking-up with someone you would avoid on a “normal” day. Instead, grab your girlfriends and stay in. Here are a couple of ideas for your night-in:
- Host a finger food party. Have each guest bring an appetizer and bite-size dessert. These fun foods can be passed around all night or set up on a buffet. You can munch throughout the evening as you talk, drink and laugh. This will be less work than serving a traditional dinner and a lot more fun.
- Have a classic movie marathon. Pick up a set of classic mysteries (Hitchcock or Christie flicks are always fun) or pick a great director and get a few of his/her movies. Avoid dramas or romantic comedies. Pop a few batches of popcorn (you can even add different flavors, like cheese, olive oil and pepper, or herbs, to kick it up a notch) and ask each of your friends to bring a bag of their favorite fun-size candies/chocolates. Create a little movie-magic buffet, sit down and have some fun. Incidentally, this movie night can just as easily be adapted for one. Don’t skimp on yourself—do up the popcorn and candy and see some of the movies that have always been on your “list.”
On your own for the night and not up for a movie marathon? Use the New Year as a chance to pamper yourself.
- Make your own spa night. Stop at your local beauty supply store and splurge on some relaxing spa treatments: bubble bath, a body exfoliator, a face mask and some luxurious lotion. Follow-up with a do-it-yourself manicure and pedicure in a glitzy color.
Patricia Leavy’s novel, Low-Fat Love, based on years on interviews with real women is available here: http://www.amazon.com/Low-Fat-Social-Fictions-Patricia-Leavy/dp/9460916465/ref=pd_rhf_gw_p_d_1