Body Image SHE-roes!
In my clinical work and when I do speaking engagements I often encourage women to identify body image heroes, or as I like to call them “SHE-roes.” After all you can’t be what you can’t see and we could all benefit from a little modeling of healthy self and body esteem, no matter where we fall in our relationships with our bodies. Modeling is often how we learn, from the ABC’s to our self talk, to our relationships with our bodies. Body image she-roes have been more and more difficult to locate in our diet, beauty and image obsessed culture, however some stellar funny women have recently been speaking out in a way that is both healthy and inspiring! I will not paraphrase them or interpret their awesomeness; rather I will collect some quotes and condense them in this post for your reading pleasure. Their words hold truth, wisdom and a little bit of humor! Enjoy:
In a new interview with Good Housekeeping magazine the side splittingly funny, charming, talented and beautiful; Melissa McCarthy addresses a question about weight:
“Pretty much everyone I know, no matter what size, is trying some system. Even when someone gets to looking like she should be so proud of herself, instead she’s like, ‘I could be another three pounds less; I could be a little taller and have bigger lips.’ Where does it end? Sometimes I wish I were just magically a size 6 and I never had to give it a single thought. But I am weirdly healthy, so I don’t beat myself up about it — it wouldn’t help, and I don’t want to pass that on to my girls.”
The ever charming and clever Amy Poehler posts about body image in a video for “Ask Amy,” a segment on Poehler’s web series “Smart Girls at the Party:” “I feel what you’re feeling, and I feel most woman do,” Poehler says.
“Sometimes a good way to help yourself get out of it is to have some gratitude. What I mean by that is, if you can go around your body and kind of thank it for what it gives you and thank yourself for your great eyesight, or your thick hair, or your nice legs, or your strong teeth, or whatever it is that you have that you were given. And make friends with those parts of your body and not try to focus on the parts that will never change.”
Super brilliant Tina Fey writes about the unrealistic standards for women’s bodies in her codemic autobiography, Bossypants:
“But I think the first real change in women’s body image came when JLo turned it butt-style. That was the first time that having a large-scale situation in the back was part of mainstream American beauty. Girls wanted butts now. Men were free to admit that they had always enjoyed them. And then, what felt like moments later, boom—Beyoncé brought the leg meat. A back porch and thick muscular legs were now widely admired. And from that day forward, women embraced their diversity and realized that all shapes and sizes are beautiful. Ah ha ha. No. I’m totally messing with you. All Beyonce and JLo have done is add to the laundry list of attributes women must have to qualify as beautiful. Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, the arms of Michelle Obama, and doll tits. The person closest to actually achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes.”