May 31, 2012 by Arielle Bair
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There’s no such thing as giving yourself too many chances. You yourself are the only one who can give YOU as many chances as you want or need. There is no limit to chances. There is no maximum.
I know how hard it is to even try. Years ago, I used to have days where I just didn’t care about a damn thing. I just wanted everything to stop and leave me to sit with myself and fade away into nothingness. I used to cry until the tears wouldn’t come anymore because I had used them all up.
I got sick and tired of it. I know you’re probably sick and tired of it now…maybe you’ve BEEN sick and tired of it for a long time…maybe you’re even sick and tired of being sick and tired…
But maybe there’s something missing… Perhaps you’re sick and tired, but unfortunately, too tired to do anything about it. That’s defeat. Don’t allow yourself to be defeated. It’s too easy. You’re worth so much more than that.
In any case, I know it can feel too hard to even begin to try some days…because it’s the same old story. The same old song and dance. To just keep on keeping on…to just keep on trying again and again. If you’ve been through this so many times and have been fighting for so long, it gets old and it gets worse.
That’s the bad news.
The good news is fighting back is the only way you’re going to eventually get out of the hell. The good news is: there IS a way out. It’s just really hard to find. But if you want out, you’ve got to look. And if you’re still coming up short, you’ve got to KEEP looking.
Because the thing is, you’re either going to burn out and fade away or you’re going to start climbing that rope to safety and freedom and health and happiness. Those are the only two alternatives…because this awful state of struggling—even if it’s been going on for a long, long time—only lasts so long, my friend.
You need a change–and I don’t mean a change in your attempts to recover. I mean a vacation from your normal way of living. Nothing eating disorder related. Just a plain and simple change. And a big one. Something to rip away the focus on your eating disorder, to force you to spend time reflecting on yourself, to simply BE and exist and breathe in the change that will surround you. And when you come back from this “vacation”–when you’ve implemented this change–you just might not be so tired and listless. You’ll be fresher, clearer, and better able to put a new foot forward. Again.
A big change is the only way to get out of that sick-and-tired-don’t-care attitude.
I’m not saying there’s one answer for everyone. But time away, that mental “vacation” (in whatever respect is available and possible) from the same old daily life you have is beneficial. You can recharge, restart, and refresh. But it can’t be something subtle. It has to be something big. Significant.