Fat is the New Skinny
April 11, 2012 by YeahDave
Filed under Body Image, Exercise, Expressive Arts Therapies, Featured, Finding Your Voice, HAES, Livin in the Moment, Loving Your Body, Mindfulness, Role Models, Self Esteem, Self-Acceptance, Self-Care, Self-Compassion, Stress Management, Wellness, Yoga, Yoga and Meditation, Yoga Therapy
The other day I was searching the internet for real life “Beauty and the Beast” stories and came across the following:
“When I was in high school-there was this gal–her name was Trudy Nussbaum–her father was Big Henry Nussbaum–the guy who owns all those car dealerships.
“Trudy was a BIG gal—I mean she must have weighed about 350, which was a lot on her short frame–I think she was only 4 feet 2 inches tall.
“She was only of those gals you can’t forget—whenever you talked to her and looked into her big bulging eyes- it was hard to look directly at her-since both eyes wandered so.
“I always wandered why her family, whick I assumed was so comfortable, would allow her to have several teeth missing and not provide electrolysis for her upper lip and inner ears.
“No matter — Trudy was one great gal—and when I was 17-I dated Trudy–I took her to the movies, walks in the park at night- grunnion hunting…we had a blast!”
It took me a little to realize the above is not true.
But…one’s physical features play less of a role in dating than you might think.
According to a Reuters article, “A whopping 85% of single men professed their love for heavier women with more than 80% of men feeling that overweight women are less bitchy than thin women. These single men thought that overweight women appreciate the attention that men give them and are more loving because of it.”
Meanwhile, according to that same poll, “90% of women think men find extra weight unattractive, and that heavy women have a much harder time dating.”
As Shira Zwebner, Relationship Advisor for several dating websites, said, “These types of misconceptions between the sexes are extremely common, and result in a lot of missed dating and relationship opportunities.”
Point being…don’t worry so much about your physical look.
Keep it Simple
I like to say to my yoga students, “You really know the yoga is effecting you NOT when you nail all the poses or can fit into the new Lulu pants…BUT RATHER when you can look in the mirror and actually see your own beauty.”
Most of us look in the mirror and see our blemishes and scars. An oft-reported survey by Dove Soap says that only 2% of women consider themselves beautiful.
A challenge for you RIGHT NOW. Can you go look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see?
Even if you are a bit of shape or stressed beyond belief, remember…true beauty is much deeper than one’s boobies, pecs, biceps, and quads.
Elizabeth Kubler Ross said, “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
STIR YOUR INNER BEAUTY WITH AN ESCAPE TO THE TROPICS
My Retreat to Tropical Tulum is taking place May 2-6. It’s 3 weeks to go and we have 3 spots left.
If you love the idea of beachside yoga, afternoon excursions to ancient Mayan ruins, dips into an azure blue Caribbean Sea, sunset refrescos in soothing hammocks, and inspiring yoga intended to trigger your warrior archetype into action…
Join us before the Friday deadline. SURPRISE YOURSELF!
YOGA JOURNAL CONFERENCE NYC THIS WEEKEND!
You can never have too much chocolate combined with 40 of the greatest yoga teachers in the world all in the Big Apple for one amazing weekend. I’m teaching this weekend at the Yoga Journal Conference NYC taking place April 12 to 16. Visit here and reserve today!
IS YOGA DEAD IN NYC?
YES! Next Friday, April 20…the Grateful Dead Yoga Hour comes to Pure Yoga. We are filling up with your fellow impassioned Deadhead yogis who want to celebrate 4-20 with a little gusto! Join us…
MY WEEKEND EVENT IN WINTER PARK, FL (April 27-28)
I’m coming to Full Circle Yoga in Winter Park, Florida to present a weekend of yoga, chocolate, wine, and GREAT TIMES. Visit here for the delicious details
COMING BACK TO PHOENIX
I’m returning to Phoenix to teach the weekend of May 18-19. More to come in the days ahead.
YOGA RETREAT TO INDIA
Join Ashley Ruback and Cathie Caccia (August 1-11, 2012) on a Hiking, Monastery & Yoga Adventure to Ladakh & Agra, India. Ashley has been leading trips to the ancient subcontinent for many years is a seasoned travel expert and amazing yoga who will provide you with a soft landing and deep adventure into the treasures of India. And Cathie Caccia is a 25 year veteran teacher from Sun Valley who will bring a Buddhist perspective to the journey. Visit here for more.
YOGIS AND TECHNOLOGY…YES!!
Kristin McGee’s new app is groundbreaking for a yoga teacher and a new way to access her sweet, soulful, skillful teachings. Visit here
JESSICA EHRLICH FOR CONGRESS!!
I’m not political by nature but when your college friend summons the courage to make a run for Congress, I have to share her journey. Check it out and if you feel the urge to support the dreams of one who wants to change the world one small step at a time, visit here.
THE ROLLPACK ROCKS!
The RollPack packs like a gym bag, hangs like a garment bag, and carries like a mat bag. Seriously it’s the perfect yoga invention if you appreciate yoga on the go! Visit here
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MY CLASSES IN NYC
I teach the following:
April 12-16 NYC (Yoga Journal Conference)
April 20 NYC (Grateful Dead Yoga Hour)
April 27-28 Winter Park, Florida (Full Circle Yoga)
May 2-6 Tulum (Yoga Retreat at Amansala)
May 18-19 Phoenix, Arizona (TBA)
June 1-2 Charlotte, NC (Y2 Yoga)