We are All Trees – Leave us Be
Get it? Trees… Leave… ok, bad joke. 🙂
Anyway, last week I posted a trailer to a documentary I found online called America the Beautiful. I’ve since seen the film and really enjoyed it but that’s not the reason I’m writing today.
No, today I want to discuss women, their bodies and why we find the need to pass judgment on each other for the way we look.
One of the comments left on the trailer post was by heart. . .
Hmm… I’m left conflicted by seeing such a polished, slim Eve Ensler there at the end telling me to stop fixing my body. I’m sympathetic to weight fluctuations, up&down all the time myself, and really I am most concerned about the health consequences of being too heavy, but, umm, that is sort of fixing my body, isn’t it? And her makeup and hair straightening, what’s that if not “fixing”? This was Eve Ensler in 2007:
Not quite what we see in this movie preview.
When I first read the comment it struck me as odd. Why point out such an insignificant part of the trailer. The movie isn’t about Eve Ensler and her body. It’s about how Americans are obsessed with image. It’s about a 12 year old thrown into the world of modeling. About men who only see women as objects and women who think plastic surgery is their “best friend”.
The more and more I thought about heart’s comment the angrier and angrier I became.
See THIS is the problem. We, yes WE, as in women, are so judgmental of each other. We are too fat. We are too skinny. We are bombarded by images of what we are suppose to look like on one hand and then slapped by our peers for caring with the other.
Now I am assuming heart is a women, I may be wrong and I hope she/he corrects me if I am. But I just need to know Why, WHY is heart so “conflicted”. What is Eve SUPPOSE to look like? And why does that matter?
I was originally going to post the picture of Eve in the video along side the one that heart shared with us and then I thought better of it. I don’t CARE if Eve has lost or gained weight. I don’t care what she looks like and I shouldn’t. It’s her body and her decision to treat it any way she likes.
I’m so glad Jen pointed out Eve’s tree story in the comments.
I LOVE what Eve Ensler just said about an experience she had talking with a woman in Nairobi….. “Do you see that tree? Do you like that tree? Do you say this tree isn’t pretty because it doesn’t look like that tree? Do you say this tree is ugly because it doesn’t look like that tree? You’re a tree. I’m a tree. You’ve got to love your tree!”
I really do believe we are all trees and some us may like to grow wild but if other’s choose to prune their branches, shape their growth and carve love messages in their bark, so be it. It’s their privilege, as a tree, to do so.
Image from David Paul Ohmer