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Why do I give a rip about Tiger Woods?

December 7, 2009 by  
Filed under Body Image

What will his son's think of their father?

The Tiger Woods saga is in full swing, and I gotta tell you — the whole thing bugs the hell out of me. I’m not a golfer, or a fan of the guy, but he represents someone who appeared to be a class act. To find out he is a sleaze ball is just flat-out disappointing.


As I watched the story on the news with my 9-year-old daughter, she immediately looked up at me and said;

“Mama, I thought Tiger was a good guy.”  Of which I responded “I did too. As did the rest of the world.”

It is a bad sign if your boyfriend takes a picture of himself like this. Immediately run for your life away from this type of dude.

From there we went on to talk about how there are role models in our culture who live vastly different lives than we do. Lives surrounded by incredible wealth, fueled by fame, ego and plain greed. I have told her a few of my Paris stories (toned down versions) in an effort to help her be what I call “street smart,” and to know within herself her integrity is EVERYTHING.


We went on to talk about Tiger’s wife, Elin Nordegren. A woman who obviously stayed with a cheating husband, even while pregnant, and was reportedly renegotiating her pre-nup to up the ante a few million as long as she stays with the scumbag


Perhaps she is going to take her $5M from the prenup and run. Wouldn’t it be just awesome if Elin called a press conference and said;

“I’m leaving with my kids, my $5M, and my dignity. Tiger can stick the rest of his money where the sun doesn’t shine, and  try to get out of this mess he created for himself. He now is free to share his boatloads of money and bed with the multiple bimbo queens who are continuing to come out of the woodwork. My life has already moved on.

Damn! Why doesn’t any woman of this celebrity do this?? Has there been one that I am not thinking of?

It kills me. We need to stand up for ourselves. I for one would never, ever stand for this crap. Infidelity = ByeBye


And here is my other take way from this horrible situation — perhaps the most relevant for this audience (and before you freak about me calling them “bimbos” read the type of stuff being released to the media. Hint: sexting , lack of condom usage, and descriptions of his “well endowed anatomy. Does it get any TACKIER than this?).


All of these women are downright gorgeous, with “perfect” bodies many would die for.  Even they get cheated on. Their perfect bodies do not bring them love. Their beauty is not a shield that protects them from experiencing hurt, shame, and flat-out crushes to their self-esteem.

Remember this the next time you glance at a woman who appears to “have it all.” It’s a facade, so stop your admiration and wishful thinking that you too will have that thin body someday, and then everything will be sunshine and rainbows.

Your missing the point of life.

While the moments slip you by, you are stuck on the size of your thighs.

It’s nothing but a crock-o-shit,



23 Responses to “Why do I give a rip about Tiger Woods?”
  1. Annie says:

    Well said! Mind you, if I was in Elin’s shoes, I’d walk after I’d given him a swift kick to the balls.

  2. Mish says:

    Great post. It goes to show that money can’t buy you anything. I hope that Elin does exactly what you said. She should. It’s amazing…really. I think what we’ve seen is branding by huge companies to protray him as something that he isn’t, because it sells. I know the man who is incharge of Nike Golf and is a friend of his. It boils down to stuff like being able to wear certain clothes on certain days, etc. Everything is calculated. I would rebel as well–not like that though.

  3. “Your missing the point of life.
    While the moments slip you by, you are stuck on the size of your thighs.
    It’s nothing but a crock-o-shit,”

    that’s my favorite!!

  4. Joy Manning says:

    Whenever these things happens it does serve as a very useful reminder that being conventionally beautiful does not protect you from the betrayals many of us fear most. As much as Wood’s wife represents the current beauty ideal, the one most of us thing would guarantee happiness, it clearly doesn’t. I’m sorry that she and her kids have to endure this.

  5. lissa10279 says:

    I love this post, MamaV. LOVE IT!

  6. cggirl says:


    You make many good points here. I love what you say about conventional beauty being no protection against this type of heartbreak. And it’s true that when we look at someone who “has it all” – whether we envy their beauty, money, personality, experiences, what have you – we never know what else might be going on, or how it will all unfold.

    I don’t know if infidelity would automatically mean to me that I must break up with my husband – I guess it would depend on the circumstances – but I think that’s something we each have to decide for ourselves. I will say, as circumstances go, these (in the case of tiger woods) seem pretty over-the-top! So i can certainly understand your reaction.

    I still always qualify it and think ok I don’t know for sure what goes on behind closed doors… But you know mamaV I think it’s cool and honest that you can just put it out there and say what a lot of us are thinking and don’t want to say as to not be “judgemental” or something.

    I also think it really is hard to find good role models. Even at my ripe old age of 31 I sometimes wish I had better role models!

    I guess we all have to be our own role models.

    Anyway, thanks for the cool post!

    • mamaV says:

      Hi cggirl: ONE strike he is out!! OUT!

      Trust is everything. Once its gone, the relationship is gone. We live in this society that has made infidelity ok, and its complete and total b.s.

      Now if you go into an “open” relationship, that is a different story because you both opted in, and its part of the deal. But for a common marriage, its a no go. And frankly, its gross. And demeaning. And downright dangerous.

      Hey -I will be your role model!!

      I’ve been married 13 years, and seriously, its so fun, and wonderful. Its all trust and respect. And you can find it, so don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t.

      Not all guys are dirtbags, that’s a load of crap too. If you demand respect, and you don’t sacrifice your integrity –ever — you’ll find a match.


      PS Mark my words — Tiger will come out to say he is a “sex addict.” I guarantee it! Porn star #2 came forth today– gimme a frickin break!

      • cggirl says:

        Aw thanks mamaV 🙂

        I, too, am very fortunate to have a husband who respects me, and while I don’t want to tempt fate by saying this – as many women think this until they find out otherwise – I really don’t think my husband would cheat on me; if I thought that of him, I would not have married him.

        I am very happy for you too that you have this wonderful, and that you’re still going strong after all these years!! That’s so nice to hear 😀

  7. cggirl says:

    Btw, speaking of how we shouldn’t run around envying these celebs as we never know what else is going on – we should have a discussion about envy. Not just envying people’s appearance, there’s a lot of stuff that elicits envy and comparing ourselves to others, esp to other women… hmm…

  8. MizFit says:

    So so freakin true.

  9. Candice says:

    How long is it going to take before we stop looking at celebrities, actors, and athletes to be role models? Why do they have to be? Why can’t WE be role models for our own children and the other children in our lives? Fame does not equal a good person or someone to be admired.

    I hate how everyone bemoans the fall of a hero. He didn’t ask to be a hero; he just asked to play golf and keep his life private. It’s not his fault we had these expectations of him.

    I think people love to see famous people fall because it gives them a sense of schadenfreude (happiness as the expense of others’ misery).

    This post is right on. We *shouldn’t* care about all of this and should concentrate on our own happiness.

    • McLauren84 says:

      I totally understand your point about becoming our own role models–so true! I’m not sure I agree that Tiger didn’t intentionally associate himself with his sterling reputation, though. He accepted money to become the spokesperson and face of big name brands and agreed to ad campaigns promoting this image. While he may not have explicitly agreed to the “good guy” image, he most certainly profited from it financially and professionally.

      • Candice says:

        Very true – and many “fallen” celebs have done that… but if those expectations didn’t exist in the first place, then the marketing campaigns would be different (thinking about the commercials starring celebs with bad reps). His story/mythology is definitely part of how he’s marketed (and how he agreed to be marketed) but we (as a society) need to remember that it is just that – marketing. He’s responsible for himself, but I want to be responsible for myself so that when things like this come out, I don’t feel hoodwinked.

  10. McLauren84 says:

    Good point about the illusion of having it all–it’s just that, an illusion. Let’s try to change the definition of having it all to focus more on the love and joy in our lives, and not just appearances. I wear a size 14, not considerable enviable by most of our society, but I’m pretty, have a great job, an amazing boyfriend, an adorable dogs and one of the most loving homes I know. I have it all!

  11. debroby says:

    On a sports blog, the writer pointed out that the public Tiger has been formed by his sponsors from the beginning. His first words at his first tournament: Gee, I guess hello, world.
    The title of his first commercial campaign -aired a couple days later?- Hello world.

    We know nothing of the man. We just think we do.

    And he’s allegedly blaming her for staying home with thier kids travelling with him. So what choice does he have but to seek out sex where he can find it?

    Nope. Tiger is NOT the man.

    And maybe we as a society are finally learning to ignore the salacious call of celebrity.

  12. love2eatinpa says:

    great post! it’s awful that so many of us ladies base so much on our outward appearance when men are often led by their little heads and not their big ones. what a schmuck!

  13. tom brokaw says:

    Sorry but if you marry the highest profile athlete in the world, a billionaire who is only 30 years old, and don’t expect with 99% certainty that he will cheat….

    You are the idiot. I can clearly count your IQ on my right hand.

    Let’s see, if I were babysitting for a living and Jessica Alba plucked me out of obscurity and married me, but then cheated on me at some point. Would I be outraged? Shocked?

    Nope. And if I were my buddies would probably punch me in the face for my UTTER lack of gratitude that she even saw fit to talk to me, let alone marry me.

    Who the hell is this woman to expect to marry TIGER WOODS and also expect fidelity? Give me a break.

  14. Lance says:

    I think…
    …that if we are not connecting, at a deeper level with what is important to us – and with some harmony in the different facets of our life – then we look to external sources for that level of *satisfaction*, or *joy*, or whatever it is that we’re missing. And can we ever fully get “there”, when it’s not connected to something internal? It’s never enough…

    Maybe it comes down to – what do you value? your ego, your power, your relationship with someone you love, you?

    • mamaV says:

      Hi Lance: Agreed totally. Do you think this is a hard thing to achieve? And to maintain?

      This touches on one of the many “gifts” I was given as a teenager in Paris at 16. The modeling world was literally the Twilight Zone. Picture yourself at a dinner party where every person is more handsome/pretty than the next. They are all rich. In exchange for a relationship, they are offering you things; gifts, trips, clothing, you name it. My reaction to this environment? It was a freak show. I hated it. Phony as hell.

      So, instead of running off and marrying some old rich dude and living the high life, I decided to keep my integrity (and my clothes on), and build my own life, make my own money, and live on my terms. As my dad always says, integrity is EVERYTHING — and once its gone there’s no getting it back.

      This is why I get so disappointed when we NEVER seem to see a high profile, beautiful woman, stand up and say pound sand to their cheating men!

      Great to hear from you neighbor!

      • lissa10279 says:

        Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is looking. And that’s the problem — these people do everything IN the public eye that their sense of what is right/wrong is completely effed up.

  15. tammy says:

    So much of what I think has already been said.. but…
    This whole debacle is more proof that being thin and\or pretty doesn’t guarantee a thing. I feel incredibly sad for his children because they will suffer the most. No matter how much money they have, at some point they will realize that they have a cheat and liar for a father. No amount of cash can fix that. Damage to child is permanent.
    It’s a shame that he’s such a selfish person, because that truly is what this is all about. I’m sure there will be tons of other opinions and guesses as to “why”?.. but it’s really all about being a gigantic narcissist. When the world revolves around you (or so you think) you wouldn’t stop and think about your behavior.. you just do whatever you want.
    I hope his wife can move on and raise her children with as much dignity and grace as is possible. If she stays, she’s sending the message to him that his behavior is acceptable. It’s not… no matter who you are.

  16. Christy says:

    Mark Sanford’s wife said this a few weeks after his affair came to light —

    “I would like to start by saying I love my husband and I believe I have put forth every effort possible to be the best wife I can be during our almost twenty years of marriage. As well, for the last fifteen years my husband has been fully engaged in public service to the citizens and taxpayers of this state and I have faithfully supported him in those efforts to the best of my ability. I have been and remain proud of his accomplishments and his service to this state.

    I personally believe that the greatest legacy I will leave behind in this world is not the job I held on Wall Street, or the campaigns I managed for Mark, or the work I have done as First Lady or even the philanthropic activities in which I have been routinely engaged. Instead, the greatest legacy I will leave in this world is the character of the children I, or we, leave behind. It is for that reason that I deeply regret the recent actions of my husband Mark, and their potential damage to our children.

    I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity, dignity and importance of the institution of marriage. I believe that has been consistently reflected in my actions. When I found out about my husband’s infidelity I worked immediately to first seek reconciliation through forgiveness, and then to work diligently to repair our marriage. We reached a point where I felt it was important to look my sons in the eyes and maintain my dignity, self-respect, and my basic sense of right and wrong. I therefore asked my husband to leave two weeks ago.

    This trial separation was agreed to with the goal of ultimately strengthening our marriage. During this short separation it was agreed that Mark would not contact us. I kept this separation quiet out of respect of his public office and reputation, and in hopes of keeping our children from just this type of public exposure. Because of this separation, I did not know where he was in the past week.

    I believe enduring love is primarily a commitment and an act of will, and for a marriage to be successful, that commitment must be reciprocal. I believe Mark has earned a chance to resurrect our marriage.

    Psalm 127 states that sons are a gift from the Lord and children a reward from Him. I will continue to pour my energy into raising our sons to be honorable young men. I remain willing to forgive Mark completely for his indiscretions and to welcome him back, in time, if he continues to work toward reconciliation with a true spirit of humility and repentance.

    This is a very painful time for us and I would humbly request now that members of the media respect the privacy of my boys and me as we struggle together to continue on with our lives and as I seek the wisdom of Solomon, the strength and patience of Job and the grace of God in helping to heal my family.”

    What a (seemingly) classy lady!

    Anytime a celebrity gets caught with his pants down, it sets off a frenzy of speculation and downright hunger for the gory details. Why is this?

    Ever hear of Schadenfreude?

  17. Frances says:

    I am so sick of this Tiger Woods scandal. I don’t think it would be awesome for Elin to hold a press conference and tell everyone she’s leaving, because christ, she doesn’t owe us an explanation. None of this has anything to do with us.

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