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I want to be her when I grow up

November 19, 2009 by  
Filed under Role Models

I saw this picture of Artist Louise Bourgeois in a bookstore a few weekends ago, and it stopped me cold. What is it about this woman? And can I have some of it??!

“Charisma” was the first word to come to mind.

Followed by “confidence.”

After getting past my amazement of her aura,  I moved on to look at her face. A face covered in moles, and bumps, and age spots, and wrinkles, and basically every single imperfection I try to cover up each day. All facial features I glazed right over when I was struck by Louise’s initially.

That’s the magic of true beauty…. it doesn’t have a damn thing to do with what you look like on the outside, why is that such a hard lesson to learn?

This is what I call charisma captured.

We’ve all got charisma. It’s just buried underneath our layers of insecurities, hidden deep below our foolish preoccupation with society imposed flaws.

Will your wrinkles matter when you are gone?

Will your children remember that you had a big tummy or a comforting one?

When you look at your own mother, and notice her aging traits, do you hate them or adore them?

Hopefully, the next time you look at yourself in the mirror, you will imagine this amazing graceful old woman Louise, and snap out of the moment to see your big picture.

You’ll be better for it,





No Responses to “I want to be her when I grow up”
  1. Marsha says:

    I tell myself this all the time. That the really beautiful older women are the ones with all the wrinkles. Their faces are so full of character. They show so much of the women’s lives. It convinces me plastic surgery isn’t for me. I want to be them when I grow up.

  2. Nell says:

    I recently had to have one of my teeth fixed (sports accident, really stupid sports accident) and when the anesthesia was starting to work and half of my face went numb my only thought was: OMG, those poor botoxed ladies feel like that all the time!

    Looking at the generations of women in my family, I feel secure in the knowledge that I will age gracefully. Doesn’t make dealing with it any easier, truth be told (I’m sliding on the scale towards thirty soon!), but it sure puts things into perspective. Do I want to be like Louise Bourgeois when I grow old? YES, emphatically so! I want this sly wit, this joie de vivre, this spirit twinkling out of my eyes. I want it all- and thus, my decision has been made that I shall not freeze myself with some of the deadliest poisons known to mankind.

    I hope I can stick with it, but I really like that there are women out there who aren’t afraid of showing they age, and I want to be one of them. *nods once more*

    One hundredth birthday, here I come!

  3. Lance says:

    As much as I see the moles, the wrinkles, the “imperfections”…the real deal is what’s underneath. And that is not an easy place to be at…the “what’s inside”. I see the guy who’s faster than I am, or the classic good looks, the one who works out every day of the week…and can too easily think “I can’t compete”. The thing is: do I realize it’s not a competition? I am me. And that is so much more than what the outer image looks like.

    Great message you are passing on!!

  4. meerkat says:

    “We’ve all got charisma. It’s just buried underneath our layers of insecurities, hidden deep below our foolish preoccupation with society imposed flaws.”

    Define “charisma.” While we might all be more at-ease without all those layers of insecurities and things, I don’t think all of use would be “charismatic.” Some of us would just be happier but still boring or withdrawn.

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