Thin Privilege, spare me.
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The slender girl in our culture, is not the healthy antithesis of the pathological fat woman, but is in fact her sister – the kinship forged by the emotional attitudes that find expressions through the body but remain otherwise mute, unknown, and unexamined. – Kim Cherin, Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters by Courtney Martin
After much thought and consideration, I am hereby calling bullshit on the Fat Acceptance (FA) created term “Thin Privilege.” All due respect to Linda Bacon and all, but please, there are so many holes in this argument.
Before you freak, I am not saying thin privilege does not exist.
Repeat, thin privilege exists and it is unfair.
I am calling B.S on the FA movement to hang their asses on it, holding it up as a “see, we told you so, show some compassion for us” part of in their mission.
1) You do not need thin privilege to make your case.
In fact, it only serves to distance those who are on board with your cause (namely many of the thin individuals that read this blog).
2) Stand up for yourself!
When you do, you may be surprised by all the thin women that line up behind you in support. Get out there and hold your head up high. Flip the bird to the dude on the street that calls you fat (BTW this is the same knob that calls me a bitch at work because I am a confident woman). Tell the group of women whispering behind your back to pound sand. Trust me, they’ll be ashamed as hell…and if not? Screw em – their problem.
3) Believe in the notion that entire world does not think you are a loser.
The media paints a daunting picture of the fat person day in and day out, so I understand its hard not to think EVERYONE is glaring at you, totally appalled by your fatness.
In Lessons-from-the-Fat-o-sphere, by Kate Harding you’ll find the chapter titled, Get over yourself! They Really, Really Aren’t Looking At You, along with this quote;
“Other people aren’t looking at you all the time. They are too caught up in their own crap – probably worried that everyone is looking at them”
4) Teaching the concept of “Thin Privilege” to children is detrimental.
Thin Privilege completely flies in the face of instilling positive body image to ALL kids, and I believe this approach would actually be quite damaging to the psyche of children on both sides of the fence. Fat Discrimination is a much more appropriate and sensible direction for our children learn about because it does not point the finger directly at any individual person.
5) Compassion towards those with anorexia is non-existent.
Where do the 25 million eating disordered individuals fit into this mix? I recognize that many people with eating disorders are not thin (some bulimics, EDNOS, etc), but what about the ones who are underweight due to dangerous eating habits and those who are anorexics? Pushing for them to recognize their thin privilege is literally deadly.
6) And finally, if you take away anything from this post let it be this – stop taking LIFE for granted – TODAY.
If being fat is your biggest problem in life, my friend ,YOU are incredibility privileged.